Why Self-Love is So Powerful
Toxic relationships—whether it’s with a partner, a friend, a family member, or even a boss—can drain you in ways you never imagined. They chip away at your confidence, fill you with self-doubt, and leave you questioning your own worth. You start to believe the cruel words, the subtle put-downs, and the feeling that somehow, you’re just not good enough. Over time, you forget who you are outside of the pain. And that? That’s exactly why self-love isn’t just important—it’s essential.
Why Self-Love is So Powerful
Self-love is more than just bubble baths and affirmations (though those can help too). It’s about reclaiming yourself—your voice, your worth, and your power. It’s about learning to speak to yourself with kindness instead of criticism, setting boundaries without guilt, and choosing relationships that nourish instead of deplete you.
When you truly love yourself:
You stop seeking validation from people who will never give it.
You recognize that love should feel safe, not like an emotional battleground.
You start making choices that align with your happiness, not just someone else’s comfort.
Loving yourself again after a toxic relationship takes time, but every small act of self-compassion brings you closer to the person you were always meant to be.
A Self-Love Jar: A Daily Reminder of Your Worth
Here’s a simple but powerful way to start rebuilding your self-love: Create a Self-Love Jar.
Each day, write down one thing you appreciate about yourself and drop it in the jar. It can be anything—your resilience, your kindness, your courage, even the fact that you made it through a tough day. When self-doubt creeps in (and it will), reach into the jar and read a few notes. Let them remind you of the incredible person you are, even on the days you don’t feel it.
A Journal Prompt to Deepen Your Self-Love
What is one way I can show myself love today that I would naturally do for someone else?
If I spoke to my best friend the way I speak to myself, how would they feel? What can I change about the way I talk to myself?
You Are Worth the Love You Give to Others
Healing from a toxic relationship isn’t just about moving on from them—it’s about moving back to you. You are not who they said you were. You are not broken. You are not unworthy. You are a person deserving of deep, unwavering love—especially from yourself.
If you’re struggling to find that love again, let’s talk. Email me any questions you might have about Self-Love: Kerry@kerryrasenberger.com
Find Happiness From the Comfort of Your Home
Kerry Life Coach is pleased to offer her Finding Happiness Through Self-Love online course. The course is designed to help you discover your true self and embrace your innate beauty, strength, and worth. Many of us struggle with low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, negative self-talk, and feeling unworthy. We often seek approval from others, neglecting our own needs and desires in the process. Self-love is crucial for our well-being and happiness. It allows us to cultivate a positive self-image, love ourselves unconditionally, and pursue our dreams with intention and purpose.
This ultimate program is for anyone who wants to learn how to put their needs first without feeling guilty, set healthy boundaries for a happier life, and tame that inner critic that brings them down. It will also enhance your confidence and positive mindset and teach you to fully accept who you are and become the best version of yourself. Whether you're healing from a toxic relationship, dealing with life transitions, or simply feeling stuck and unfulfilled, this course will provide you with tools and techniques to thrive!
